I am one to talk. A lot. (no harsh comments, I know I’m not the quiet type) But as I “advance” in life I seem to ALWAYS have a comment to a conversation. It’s time that I re-learn my listening skills.
With just having a baby it’s so hard to not talk about just her and my experiences all the time. Although I am no pro and will never consider myself one, the baby is not all that I have to talk about. There is so much more in life then my child. I can defiantly say that she is pretty stinkin close to being “my world”. I mean, really, everything I do revolves around that child now. But I am into so much more then just her.
I KNOW, I KNOW…. your all saying “But Cherith, thats what happens when you have a baby. Everyone expects that.”
Well, Not me! My whole life I have not been a pro at relationships. Especially with my friends. I am not one to just listen to a conversation and NOT have an opinion. I think that some people just want to vent, or talk, or maybe want your opinion but NOT your life story!! And thats my problem. I need to be slow to speak. Listen for a time when input is needed. Not when I think it’s always right.
I noticed this when I was talking with some old friends a few weeks ago. Instead of asking them about their lives and their new babies I proceeded to inform them about me… UGH…. “SLOW TO SPEAK CHERITH”
Fortunately, these girls know me and probably weren’t to shocked that I talked about Sage and my birth experience and my whole 2 months of being a mom. (to those girls, I am truly sorry. I want to know more about your lives and whats going on… I should have just shut up!)
It is even biblical that we need to be slow to speak
James 1:19 “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak…”
Learning to focus and listen to someone else is such a talent. I admire the people that can TRULY listen to a conversation, give advice, and follow up in days to come remembering everything that was talked about.
I want to be like that! I want to be a better friend. I know that my life’s circumstances have changed and that most of my conversations will evolve around my child and me being a stay at home mom… but I want to be so much more then that. Just a better person.. a better friend…
To all of the girls and woman in my life…. thank you. Thank you for understanding my character and excepting me the way I am.
Loud. Talkative. Opinionated. New at this…