Stats and percentages

I just want to start this by saying, this is just a rant. Something I’ve been thinking about but in NO MEANS related to any conversation that I’ve had. This is just my heart and things that I have personally been convicted of. So no hard feeling… this is just thoughts on a page 🙂

Before having Sage, I planned her life out. I want her to grow up and be a dancer like I was. A strong and confident girl but humble and giving of her time to serve others. I want her to be liked and loved by everyone like we do. I want her to come to know Jesus at an early ages and LONG to come to know him and grow closer to him. I want her to be a good friend and a wonderful wife and mom. All these things I still think about and pray over her. But there are times where I worry about her.

Don’t get me wrong, she’s only 8 months old and she has a whole life to live.. but MAN.. this world has come to make new moms think that our kids have to be at a curtain percentage every stage of their life and has to know “X” amount of things or do “X” amount of stuff at an “X” age… Grrrrr… can’t I just go to a Dr appointment without the “Well, Last time we saw Sage she was at the 95 percentile for height but now she’s at the 50th percent. And she’s not rolling yet but hopefully by the next visit she will be.” And oh I like this one “a fat baby is a healthy baby” (although I am by no means saying I wish Sage wasn’t… plump 🙂 I love her chunky rolls and only wish chunk would be as cute on me as they are on her! just sayin’…)

Anyways. I feel like anymore as moms we have enough to worry about. Sleepless nights. Teeth. Bumps and bruises. Walking… talking… you know… the works!! To many times Dr’s or maybe just people in general are to quick to label a kid as short or tall. Fat or skinny. Smart or behind. Can’t my kid just BE!?

Also, as a mom it is SO HARD to not compare my child to yours. Wishing she was walking or talking. Because some of my girlfriends girls are saying words and are close to walking. Or waving HI or BYE! Sage doesn’t do that. She just looks at you and smiles…

Yes, there are children in the world that have special needs or that truly are behind. But they are still a kid! You can still have your hopes and dreams for them. Yes, the path may have changed a tiny bit. They may never be tall enough to be in the NBA but maybe they’ll be an excellent runner or piano player. You just never know! You can’t limit a child just because the world does!

I have a few people in my life that have kids that aren’t where they are suppose to be. But my goodness, they are so smart in their own way!! My Best Friend, Kristin, has a son named Daniel. When I met Daniel for the first time he was SO tiny! He looked like a precious moments doll. But this kid is far from average. He has a lot of disabilities that not even his Dr’s understand them all. And when Daniel was a baby, Kristin was told that he will probably never walk or talk. He won’t be able to take care of himself or learn in a “normal” environment. MAN, did he prove those Dr’s wrong!! No, Daniel was not walking when he was one.. not even at 2! He was barely 4 years old when he could walk straight and not stumble. BUT HE’S WALKING! He plays, he talks your ear off!!! He communicates and feeds himself. All those “stats and percentages” didn’t apply to him! He beat the odds and he is an amazing little boy! And I love his mommy for being a strong woman and determined to make him more then a child with disabilities. Daniel has a long way to go, but he has come this far and I am so proud of him. My little Angel baby 🙂 (xoxox.. I love you Daniel Peyton :))

Stats and percentages are only guides. Please know my heart when I say that I know that they are there for a reason. But as a first time mom they are high expectations! Every dr’s appointment I am worried if we’re going to “pass the test”. If Sage is were she needs to be. I pray that I can raise her properly and not make her think that she has to be the way the world thinks she needs to be. If she’s short forever.. OH WELL!!! I’ve seen a lot of awesome dancers that are height challenged 😉

Prov. 22:6  “Train a child in the way he should go,  and when he is old he will not turn from it.”


Quick Update

So, I thought I would get on here since it’s been AGES and tell everyone QUICKLY whats going on with us.

First and foremost, the most important and yet exciting this that is happening to our family…

NO.. I’m not pregnant 🙂

We decided back in December to join together with Brad and Lisa Ruggles as they plant a church in Westfield, Indiana! So what does this mean for us? BJ has a strong desire to lead worship and the opportunity seemed to fit as well. After lots of praying and seeking we realized that this is where we are suppose to be and we are SO excited to see what God is going to do through this. As of right now we are not moving. Westfield (or some of you may be more familiar with Carmel) is less then 2 hours away from Fort Wayne. Therefore, we are commuting right now some weekends for team meeting and get togethers. As the time comes I will try my best to keep everyone updated as to what is happening in this area. As more people are joining the team and things are starting to be put together, Please pray with us that God will continue to provide for Imagine Church. Also that he will give us creative ways to reach Hamilton County and for them to be excited about Imagine.

Sage Madison is now 8 months old! I feel like it was just last week that I put on here my birthing story and getting into the groove of being a new mom. Now she is a crawling machine, chatter box, and refusing to sit! She is such a joy. And still, we feel that we are so beyond blessed to have this sweet, happy, lovable, baby. She is not shy to anyone and will light up a room! We are quiet spoiled with her and we just know that all the kids to follow will be the same 😉

As for BJ and myself, he is still working at ADP and is kicking butt. (although he may not feel that way) A little over a month ago we left for his 5th Presidents Club to the Baltic Sea and traveled to 5 countries in 5 days! It was amazing! And for me, well… I just signed on to be a Thirty-One Consultant to make some extra cash. And I have to tell you, I am pretty excited!! I love their products and the company. I think this will be a great fit for me in many ways. I also started a fitness program called Power 90. It’s only been a few days, but I needed this. I need a change with my health and I saw a great improvement in a few of my closest friends. I will say, I am not looking to drastically change my body, but I wouldn’t be upset if it happened.

Well, that’s all I got. I must go to bed. But I wanted to make sure that I updated this and maybe that will motivate me to update it more often

Until then… good night

The Carpenters