Sage Madison Carpenter 1-16-10

It has been a few weeks, but I wanted to post this before I forgot it all!

On saturday, January 16th @ 12:01pm, we welcomed into the world our first baby, Sage!

Man. What a journey it has been being pregnant! I have so much to talk about, but the first thing I want to talk about is my birthing experience.

And you are all wondering… “Did she do it? Did she go ALL NATURAL??”

YES! I did it! I lasted a full 19 hours with no drugs, no medication, and no intervention!

I started truly laboring around 5pm on friday night. For about 3 weeks I was already having contractions. They were more like menstrual cramps that were mostly in the evening. But when I started to have real contractions we could time them and they felt a little more intense then the usual cramping I was experiencing.

The night before, thursday, I had felt 3 gushes. It felt like I had peed my pants but with zero effort! I called my doula and she said that my water probably broke. Now, this is possible for your water to break without contractions. It’s just a sign that labor is coming hopefully within the next few hours.

Well, we waited… and waited… packed the car, and waited. Nothing happened. I didn’t feel any change and it started to make me worry. Now, if I would have gone to the hospital right away they would have admitted me and kept me on a time clock. Because, they have to take precautions, if your water did break, and if your baby isn’t born in 24 hours they will MAKE the baby come (however that may be). But in my research 🙂 and my personal belief, you do not need to rush to the hospital after something like that happens because it really isn’t THAT serious if your water broke. Some midwives will let woman go for days like this… So, with that, I didn’t call the hospital.

Although, after almost 12 hours and no change I decided to call my doula because I was concerned that I wasn’t having contractions at all! With talking to her and my husband, we thought it would be best to ask my Dr if my water truly did break. That took us to our first hospital visit. I was not thrilled to say the least. Cause I knew that if my water did break the time clock would begin and they would want to induce me and all this other stuff that I did not want.

Well, I was checked, and wouldn’t you know it… my water DIDN’T break!! Weird… So we went home (after hours of being in that little room) and just waited. I started to notice that I was having my cramping pains more regular and for certain amounts of time. So my husband and I decided that we would start timing them. Well, after a long period of time, and the contractions getting a tid bit more intense, I called my doula Brooke. And she agreed. I was in labor! 🙂

I was so excited!!! It was official! I was experiencing something that I have geared up for, for so long! I was nervous and yet, so ready.

First you should know, it was very important to me to labor at home for as long as possible! I was much more comfortable there. I wore my clothes. Played my music. Lite some candles. And my husband even took a little nap because my mom and doula were there. Anyways, As the contractions got more intense I had to concentrate harder. Relaxing is SO SO important during a contraction. It’s human nature to tense up when you feel pain, but doing that will make it harder for the baby from going where they need to be. And will also make the contractions hurt more! My doula kept reminding me to relax my bottom. And it truly helped! (especially during the end with the VERY intense contractions). There were a few times at home where the pain really hit me, and honestly I would cry. But there is something that everyone needs to remember, contractions really only last 30-45 seconds. But because it’s pain, it feels like so much longer. I had to remind myself often that the break is coming. You have 3 minutes or so in the beginning, where you feel normal in a sense. Breathe and be patient. Don’t look ahead and think how much harder they will become. Just think about the one contraction that you are in. Time really flies by. Being surrounded by people that love you and want you to succeed was so important too.

Well, my contractions progressed very quickly! And then, I started to have contractions 1 minute apart. These were the tough contractions. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that it doesn’t hurt, because it does. But, to me, it’s a different kind of hurt. Anyways, we all agreed, it’s time to go to the hospital. We get there and again, they put us in a little room. And I end up in this little room for 3 hours!!! When your in the middle of labor the last thing you want is to be cramped up in a room while getting checked AND having contractions. When the nurse came into check me we all thought that this was it and the baby was right around the corner. Well, we were wrong (sort of). From my first visit to this one, in 6 hours, I have not changed or progressed at all. I was 3.5 centimeters dilated and only 80% effaced. It was SO HARD to believe!!! I knew I was in labor, but the nurse was insistent that I just irritated my uterus and thats why I was having strong “cramping”. She begun to explain to us how woman are so anxious to have a baby, that they do crazy things to their body and just end up going through pain for nothing. So she gave me 2 options. 1) I stay at the hospital and take a shot of Nubian (sp?) which is like a super strong muscle relaxer (and also a pain reliever you can get in the middle of labor), and if the cramping goes away and stays away, she was right. No labor. or 2) I take a sleeping pill and a hot bath at home and same thing, my uterus should relax and no more labor. Well, because I didn’t want to take a shot and stay at the hospital, I opted to go home and try to sleep. On the way home I was SO uncomfortable! My doula went home and so did my mom. Everyone was in such disbelief that I wasn’t in labor. It just didn’t make sense. I knew in my heart that the nurse wasn’t right, but I listened anyways and went home.

Once I got home I felt HORRIBLE! I took a sleeping pill while in great pain. Not a good combo. You have no control over your body with the dizziness and lightheadedness. I tried to sleep first but that was a no go, so I jumped in the tub. Usually, a hot tub helps me relax, but in this case, the water was far to low to give any kind of comfort. BJ checked on me while I was in the tub worried, because he could hear me moaning. (sounds great, I know 🙂 ) We knew that something wasn’t right. I tried to lay down again, but every 5 minutes I was getting up or rolling around. well, out of concern, I went to the restroom because something just didn’t seem right. Well, I was bleeding. A lot too. I had no idea what to think. My head was already spinning because of the sleeping pill, and now I’m bleeding. BJ finally looked at me and said “i’m calling the hospital! There is no way your not in labor”. So after a short conversation with the nurse that checked me before, she decided that my cervix is probably thinning out and I should come in. (this is where I wanted to say “NO DIP SHERLOCK!” but I kept all comments to myself 🙂 )

The trip to the hospital was NOT enjoyable! Laboring in a moving car is no fun and in no way comfortable! We practically ran into the hospitals check in desk and they took me straight to a delivery room!! I was so happy. While my mom and doula where on their way, the same nurse checked my again. You could tell she didn’t have high hopes for me, she thought she was going to help induce me or something because she could tell I was uncomfortable. Well guess what?!?! In 2 hours I dilated to 6 centimeters and I was 100% effaced!!! The nurse couldn’t believe it! And I cried! I knew that I was in active labor it just took it’s time.

I have to tell you, if your hospital offers a Jacuzzi tub or they have, what is called, a “suite” TAKE IT!!! Especially if you are going all natural. The hot tub and it consuming your body is such a relief!! You still have pain but it’s easier to relax. I labored in the tub for almost 2 hours. My doula also was an excellent coach!! She was so great with different positions and helping me cope. She knew when I should move or how to breathe. She was so encouraging when I was making weird breathing sounds and telling me that I was doing everything right. (when you feel like you aren’t) Staying in the tub while I was in labor was amazing. But there was a time when my doula suggested I change positions. I leaned up against the edge of the tub, on my knees, and spread’um! OH MY GOODNESS!!! That changed everything in an instant!!! My contractions were far more intense and I could feel the baby drop! Then within minutes my doula was like “I think it’s time to get out and get checked.” And was she right!! I got out and I was 9.5 centimeters!! The only thing from keeping this baby in was my water. So although, some people wouldn’t consider this “natural”, they broke my water. I mean, come on…. I was SO CLOSE!! It didn’t matter 🙂 And then, the pushing began.

Now, let me tell you something. Pushing was NOT exciting for me. Or even a “relief” like it is for most woman. I was nervous to push. I don’t know why, but I was hesitant every time. I’m glad I listened too my body and when I felt like I should push. Sometimes I pushed with a contraction and sometimes I didn’t. I had a GREAT nurse and Doctor too. They Allowed me to go with what I was feeling and stop when I wanted to stop. I was never rushed. Sometimes I feel like woman don’t have control and then thats when things go wrong. I could tell when she, the baby, was moving. It was the coolest thing. Sometimes I even felt her wiggle her way down. Almost to say, “here I am mom. I’m helping you!”. If I were to have an epidural I wouldn’t have felt anything and would have had to push with a Dr. telling me when. I pushed through the pain. I could tell when I needed to push harder or just a little. I took breaks where I wanted too.. and therefore, the baby came when it was time. I only pushed for about an hour. Some people think thats so long, but to me it felt like a few minutes. And I will say this, if I could have had medicine at one given time it would have been at the VERY end and getting that head out!!! Talk about the “ring of fire” !!!!! Goodness, that was NOT good. Thankfully, it last all but a few seconds. AND I swear, that because I did what I felt like my body was telling me, I didn’t tear! I know that some woman do or get an episiotomy (where the Dr. just cuts you), but because my dr. wasn’t anxious about getting her out, and I pushed how I felt I needed too, I didn’t tear 🙂

And there she was. exhausted and all… I held my baby for the first time. I didn’t cry. I was so worn out. But everyone else cried for me! It was sweet bliss!!! Holding her and feeling her soft skin was everything I thought it would be!!! My baby girl, Sage Madison, was born at 12:01pm… Amazing. And I did it all by myself.

Now, if someone could have prepared me for the AFTER baby stuff.. I would have appreciated that!! Sheesh.. they really mess with you and everything your body goes through!! But that is something that may be a little bit more gross… so if you want to know about that, email me. hahaha… I am not going to get into detail about that on here.

My hopeful Birth Plan

Seeings how I am about 4 weeks out I thought I would share my Birth Plan to the world and then when our Little Bean comes, we’ll see what REALLY happened!

As most of you know (if you read my blog ever…) I want to have this baby as natural as possible. In fact, if it was my choice I would have this baby at home with a midwife. But my dear husband isn’t game, so therefore, we hired a Doula and will be having our baby at a newly remodeled Hospital here in town.

First let me explain what a Doula is. She is a labor coach that you hire on your own research or recommendation from someone. I found my Doula, Brooke,  from fortwaynedoula.org. And then looked at her website for detailed information on how she feels about natural birthing, or just the birthing process in general. I found, that with wanting to have a natural birth, and this being my first time, hiring her would be ideal for not just myself but my husband as well. She is very informative as far as procedures go, what to expect, laboring positions, and hospital protocol. We have meet a few times and went through a birth plan on what I would like to expect when things come up.

Now that you know what a Doula is lets go through my expectations….

Of course, you must all know, that if ANYTHING changes in my birth plan I will not be devastated. Of course, I want to try my hardest to go all natural and medication free, but I know that things happen. Baby changes her plans or position. My body reacts differently. Anything can happen… I am not waiving anything out. Remember, this is my first time.

Ok, here’s the plan.

First, I want to try to labor at home for as along as I can. I will call Brooke as soon as I am having consistent contractions. My idea of comfort is NOT in a hospital! I want free will for as long as I can have it. (and I want to be able to eat if I’m hungry!!! I get sick if I don’t eat for a certain period of time)

I have already begun to have contractions. I have dilated a little bit and my cervix is doing a fine job of thinning out. Also, the baby is sitting nice and low. Yes, I am not the most comfortable, but it’s do-able. I’m not complaining because my body and the baby is doing what they are suppose to be doing.

Brooke has informed BJ and myself that she can pretty well tell how far along girls are by their way of breathing and actions. As some of you may know, there are 3 stages of labor; Active labor, transition labor, and after baby labor (that’s my short version). She’s pretty good at guessing where you are. (Doulas are not certified to “check” a woman’s cervix. F.Y.I) When we all feel it’s time to go to the hospital then we will head that way.

Now, distance is something that we have to take into consideration as well. Unfortunately, my Dr. does not delivery at the hospital that is down the road from our house. So we have to jump on the highway and drive about 20 minutes to get to the hospital. And weather also plays apart of this. HOPEFULLY I will have nothing to worry about but my breathing… hopefully

When I get to the hospital they have a “suite” delivery room with a jacuzzi tub. This would be IDEAL for someone like myself. Laboring in the water is like a natural epidural. Of course, it doesn’t take ALL of the pain away but I know it will help. Unfortunately, I can not have a water birth. I don’t have a definite answer as to why there are no hospitals in Fort Wayne that will allow this, but thats ok… maybe next baby. 🙂

There are many techniques to dealing with contractions. I have studied a million different ways it seems. So it will be interesting to see what works best for us.

I also do not want an I.V. unless it is absolutely necessary. I don’t have to worry about the Group B bacteria that I tested for. It was negative. The hospital will not force me to have an I.V. but if they insist on me having something I can have the start of an IV in my hand that I will just cover up.

I would rather not be checked on an hourly basis. For a few reasons. First, the longest distance in labor is getting from 1 to 5 centimeters dilated. WHY would I want to disappoint myself every hour with little progress. I have a feeling I will be able to tell when the contractions change from strong to really strong 🙂 I will be checked when it is necessary and especially when it’s time to see my baby!!

That also goes along with having monitors on my belly for the whole time!! I think this is just a weight that is not needed the whole time. Thankfully they can put the monitors on for 20 minutes, get their readings, and then take them off.

When it comes to the actual delivery of the baby I want to try and listen to my body when I feel the urge to push. Although I have never done this before, I have a feeling I will know what my body is telling me. Coaching is fine, but I know that pushing can also last for more then an hour… depending on baby.

Secondly, IF my water has yet to break I am not opposed to having the Dr. break it for me. Although some people would not consider it natural, I consider it more natural then Pitocin. The only thing that I DON’T like about this is once it is broken you are put on a 24 hour time clock. If she isn’t born within that time frame they will “force” her out, in fear of infection. I do and don’t agree with this. So hopefully it is something I will not have to worry about.

Also, when it comes to tearing vs. an episiotomy (where the Dr. cuts you), I think I would rather take a chance at tearing. I have not completely discussed this with my Dr., so I need too. I think it’s important to know how your Dr. feels about certain procedures before you make a true decision. I am still pretty two-sided about it. I see benefits on both ends. What if I don’t tear… or wouldn’t have and she still cut me… I guess it’s something you will never know about till it comes.

I do not care for the mirror. Yes, it’s amazing whats happening… but I don’t think I can watch myself push this baby out…. I’ll just want to pull her out with my hands!

My husband will cut the cord. And we are not waiting for the cord to stop pulsing. Again, this is something I am two-sided about. But all in all, my baby will be healthy. Thats all that matters.

And lastly, my hospital offers something for the parents and baby for one hour right after delivery that you can customize yourself. We have chosen it to be just the three of us. I will nurse right away, and the lights will be dimmed and soft music will be playing. It’s a mood setting that I am truly looking forward too!

Well… thats about all I can think of. We’ll see how it really plays out. I feel really great about everything so far. I am letting everything take it’s course. I am in no hurry to have this baby just because the longer she cooks the better 🙂

If you have any questions, or there was something I missed please let me know!! Like I said, I know it’s my first time, but there is always a good hope that this can all happen.

Also… if you think I’m crazy for doing this PLEASE do not leave a comment telling me that… I believe that God has given me this privilege of having a baby and this is the way the he wants ME to have our baby. If it’s not for you, thats ok. I give any woman props for having a baby. Because it’s not just the birth that you go through.. but the whole 9 months! Kudos…

The journey continues….

OK, lets be honest…

I have to admit, I LOVE being pregnant!! We feel so blessed that I have only had a few things as far as symptoms are concerned. No real morning sickness. No overwhelming discomfort. Nothing huge.

BUT, there is one thing that I really do not like NOR GET… and it’s Hiccups!!!!!

How the heck does a child in the womb, who isn’t breathing air, get the hiccups!?! And WHY do they have to last so long!?

At first I thought it was cute. You know, it feels like a heart beat in your belly. BUT when it happens 4 to 5 times in a day!!!! Oh my goodness… Just GO AWAY!!! It is truly something I do not like. Yes, I said it. I don’t like this part of my pregnancy! The hiccups are so annoying in so many ways. There’s nothing you can do about them. There’s no way to make it more comfortable. You just have to wait it out…

And then of course your told that if you have a “hiccupie” baby in the womb, they will be like that out! We’ll see…

On a more positive note, I only have 7.5 weeks left!!! This is just crazy!! I am starting to feel huge, although I am still being told that I am small. (well, by some people)

I’m starting to research more supplements to help with my all natural labor (like red raspberry leaf and primrose oil). And today I bought some Digestive Papaya to help with my over active acid reflex!! I’m really starting to get excited! The nursery is coming together and I can’t wait to post up pictures…. but of course, I can’t do that till it’s done!

Have a wonderful week… hopefully I will update sooner then later 🙂

Love,

Cherith and Baby Bean

The past 28 weeks of my life

28 weeks sounds like such a short time. But in fact it has been 7 full months! 7 months of a beautiful pregnancy! Yes, it’s had it’s ups and downs. Crazy emotions and joys. But it has been a journey that I have been looking forward to for as long as I can remember.

Here are some “pregnancy symptoms” I have experienced…

Fatigue. I’m not just talking I need a nap. I’m talking, I need to sleep ALL DAY! Body is achy. Muscle’s don’t want to move. TIRED like I have never experienced.

Emotions. Lots of them. Take an emotional woman’s “time of the month” times 10! My poor husband had to sit through it all. Fortunately, it’s not hardly as bad any more.

And lets talk about crying at any given moment! Commercials. TV shows. Something someone says. Good or bad. I’m tearing up. But nothing you can’t laugh about later.

Gagging! HOLY COW! I am not and have never been a gagger! I could have stuck my finger down my throat and nothing would happen. Get pregnant, and I’m an instant gagger! Spit made me gag. Cooking made me gag. Smells made me gag. You name it, it was gaggin’! (thank goodness that goes away!)

Weight gain. Although I have been lucky thus far and have only gained 12 pounds. It’s still something you worry about as a woman. You want to bounce right back after the baby is born. You want to be one of the lucky ones that looks like she never had a baby when you walk out of the hospital! Although, I am realistic and I know that probably won’t be true in my case. I am still overly conscience about the weight I put on.

Speaking of weight… Food cravings!!! I have not had any weird food cravings. BUT if you talk about Pizza I am ALL OVER IT!!!! Pizza is something that I can eat a lot of right now. I always want it. And it almost always sounds good! And doughnuts!!! I love me some store bought doughnuts!!! Good thing they are high in calories because it has kept me from eating a lot of them.

Water! I drink more water then someone running a marathon!!! It’s almost like a life line. I crave it and wake up in the middle of the night needing it!! But that is something I am not ashamed of.

My Bladder! It’s no silly coincidence that pregnant woman have to pee on a regular basis. Fortunately for me it’s has just recently REALLY kicked in. And I just laugh. It’s something you can’t avoid and I would rather have a healthy bladder then an unhealthy one.

Pale skin. This baby has literally SUCKED the pigment out of my skin!!! I use to just DREAD being too pale. And I would RUN to the tanning bed. But I’m actually starting to like it. With the right make up, it could work 🙂

Dr. Appointments. I have to say, my favorite thing is when she starts looking for the heart beat. The first time I cried. It’s amazing to just sit there and hear a little heart beat in your belly and know that it’s YOUR BABY that you and your husband created. You start thinking about what she’ll look like. Who will she most act like. And that heart beat is just a reassurance that she is still there and everything is still ok…

Movement. I first felt my flutters around 17 weeks. They were really weak flutters but I knew it wasn’t my organs moving around because it almost felt like a tickle. NOW 10 weeks later she is much stronger and to the point were she moves enough to move my whole body. And having BJ wait to feel her is even more exciting!! I love remembering the look on his face when he first felt her move! What an experience to have.

Before I ever got pregnant I was determined to enjoy my pregnancy NO MATTER HOW I FELT!! Because it’s life. God is trusting me with this little life. To carry her in my womb and into the world. To raise her up with the best of my abilities. Every child is a gift. No matter the circumstances. I look at my 2 year old niece and think about how fast she has grown and the things she has learned. And now I get the chance to raise my own little bean and teach her things. I just PRAY that it will be pleasing to the Lord. That some how, I’ll do it right.

My goals for the rest of this pregnancy is to continue to educate myself. Being a stay at home mom seems to be a shock to people any more. It’s not really heard of. I am blessed with a husband who stands by my wants to be a stay-at-home-mom. I know God will bless this home because we are listening to what we feel is right for this family.

AND… people think I am crazy for wanting to go all natural with this pregnancy and labor. I feel that for me, I am meant to have this baby as natural as possible. For me! Not for anyone else. If you had medication, I am not going to bet you down and shake my finger at you. Everyone is different. God is in everything. Meds or not. I just feel for me and this family, I don’t want medication. (unless I absolutely have too!) Besides… I hate needless and the thought of not having any control. And thats the selfish and stubborn side of me. 🙂

So… I have 12 weeks left! Thats it… 12 weeks and our little Sage Madison will come into this world thinking “WHAT THE HECK! PUT ME BACK!”… And then eventually she will thank me when she is 30 or so for bringing her into this world and teaching her about life, and Jesus, and everything else in between.

Sage Madison Carpenter…. I love you already! I love feeling you move inside of me and reminding me that you are going to be a strong woman! And this is something that I will cherish for the rest of my life!

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My Future

Knowing that we are going to have a girl is such a big deal because there are SO MANY THINGS that come with having a girl. Pretty Dresses. Dancing. Singing. Cheerleading. Boys. And lots and lots of emotions!!! I don’t consider myself an over emotional girl. I think I have balance. Although, yes, when I was a teen I would cry if I was hurt. But at least I wasn’t screaming! lol.

Also with having a girl there is the known fact that they do things a little sooner then most boys. Like talking. My niece Lucy is just barely over the age of two and she is talking in full sentences, giving dirty looks, and rolling her eyes. Like she 18 already!! It’s amazing to me how fast she has grown and the things she is catching up on. Seeing her makes me very aware of what I’m about to get myself into. And this great video, that is all over facebook, is a great look into my future of having a girl.

Please enjoy a good laugh 🙂

19 weeks and counting

I can’t believe it. I’m one week away from being 5 months into my pregnancy.

So many things have changed and happened. First the obvious. My belly! It’s officially poked out. A little more then a poke. Sometime I wonder if I’m suppose to be this big. BUT I’ve only gained 3 pounds!!! Yes, thats right. I haven’t subtracted any numbers to make this post look pretty, it’s the truth. I’m thinking my physical body has lost weight and my baby is making up for it. Which I’m ok with that. Hopefully after she is born I won’t have to work out over time to loose a ton of weight. But I won’t speak to soon 🙂 Who knows what will happen in the next 4 months.

Another great thing is that I have officially jumped into the “break” stage of the second trimester. I’m not gagging at everything. Smells are still strong but I can get over the nasty smelling ones. I never was nauseous. Never really had morning sickness. So thats nothing to worry about. I’m still tired. But I can make it through a whole day without a nap! LOL that was something that worried me. Never thought someone could be SO TIRED!! And I’m not having to eat every 2 hours any more!! lol. My appetite is finally getting back to “some what” of what it was. Still a little picky, but nothing I can’t deal with.

And now for the fun part!! MOVEMENT! What an amazing feeling!! I love noticing it. I love feeling it and everywhere she goes. Sometimes I can move and she’ll go all to one side and I just feel a huge lump in my stomach. And then it’s gone. But my favorite thing is BJ questioning it if it “really is her or just gas”.. or my muscles moving, or organs moving. LOL.. I was told that he would question it, but didn’t think it would be this much. Oh well, it’s cute. It’s all because he can’t feel anything yet. He tries to be patient and keep his hand on my belly, but that last all but 30 seconds because she’ll stop. Typical right?!

I love being pregnant!!! I love that all my close friends are pregnant or have little ones already. And funny enough, they all have girls!! So I’m already thinking about mommy days. Play dates. Tea parties. Dress ups. The park. Everything. I’m very ready for it all!! I never thought I would be this ready to be a mommy, but it’s funny how it works out this way. even though we got pregnant sooner then we expected too, I’m ready for it!!

While I’m thinking about it…

Got any tips for these last few months of Pregnancy? I know walking is a huge deal, but what else. Tell me something only Girlfriends told you. or something you figured out on your own… I need to know, so please share!!!!